Many of you, especially you hun, already know about this so feel free to just skim over it if you want, but I want to put my thoughts down and such. I am also taking suggestions and ideas...
So Deidre and I have recently hit a road block in our relationship. That road block is a LARP (Live Action Role Playing Game) called Steam and Cinder (www.be-epic.com).
Before I met Deidre I got involved in LARPing. I love it very much. You portray a character or monster at a boy or girl scout camp out in the woods in either role play, mock combat, or both as the situation warrants. Costuming and make up is frequently involved. The best way I have found to describe this is full immersion improvisational theater. It involves rules like any other game, but otherwise is a full out play in which you play a part. I find this very fun, better then video games or table top games, mostly because of how fully immersive it can be.
About a year into our relationship I started working at Turbine. A video game company full of nerds and geeks. Well inevitably I rediscovered LARPing, as I had left my first one for many reasons. I began having fun with this quasi-sport-game-play thing again and because of that I found Steam and Cinders.
Steam and Cinders is a steampunk (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Steampunk
) LARP. And I have truly fallen in love with it. I love the system, the people, the lore and world. My only complaints are that there is 1 outdoor shower and the site is relatively small, but these pale in comparison to the reasons I love it.
Ultimately it is an expensive and time consuming hobby. Costuming and weapons cost money, events cost money, supplies cost money and an entire weekend is dedicated to this. Deidre says she feels like we don't do enough together and losing both a weekend and all that money to do things with becomes a problem. I'm not sure I agree. The money is partly true, but we only went to movies every so often and we still do on occasion. The time we do lose, but it's also only 6 weekends a year out of 52. Her counter argument is that those 6 weekends are during the best time of the year to do things. I still feel there are 3 other weekends each of those months.
I think a large part of the problem is her parents. They pressure her all the time about a job, yet at the same time say she doesn't do enough around the house, when every weekend I am there I know we complete a handful of chores and take up most of the day doing it. I really would like to get her out of that house, so that A) they can see what they are missing and B) I could see her more often which I think would help this situation.
Another thing I think would help is if she tried LARPing and liked it. But too many things are there to consider. I won't go into them all but suffice it to say that she doesn't feel with her limitations she could play a character she would enjoy. She really doesn't like the idea of camping either. On top of that she feels the character she would design wouldn't hang around with the ones I and my friend have designed. Lastly, she isn't completely interested in the concepts and racces of this particular LARP. Being a Sci-Fi fan, and hating fantasy leaves many LARPs out of the question and a handful teetering, such as S & C.
We are currently stuck at a stand still. She would like it if I stopped LARPing or at the very least LARPed less. I feel that I shouldn't have to do such a thing. I miss her on the weekend, but at the same time I still dedicate those other 46 weekends to her. On top of that I feel and she has agreed that if we saw each other during the week this would be less of an issue. As it stands that isn't possible right now, but I think of it as we will eventually have that living situation.
As it all pans out I have no idea what to do right now... I want to avoid cutting time out of the LARP, but I also love her and don't want her to feel like I am picking the LARP over her. Right now I am mulling things over and hoping to find a solution/answer before next game (April).